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Causes

Attachment
Greed (in the form of selfishness)
Fear (of loss, of being alone, etc.)
A sense that we are special (strong sense of 'me')

 

Internal manifestations

Paranoia
Anger
Resentment
Fear
Insecurity
Vulnerability
Feeling of inferiority
Ineptitude
Anxiety
Sadness
Loneliness
Feeling of betrayal
Depression
Envy
Greed
Feeling powerless
Feeling of exclusion
Decrease of self-confidence, because at some level we realise all the causes and internal manifestations that are happening in our flawed inner world

 

External manifestations

Shame, not wanting to admit to our internal manifestations and flawed inner world to the other person
Creating distance from the other person, due to fear of not being accepted because of our flawed inner world, also as a form of protection: if they leave we won't suffer as much
Hostility
Possessiveness to try to make the problem disappear (external locus of control)
Competitiveness

 

Strategies to overcome jealousy

Realisation that everybody is equal. Shanti Deva’s view is that we have Jealousy towards superiors, competition with equals, and arrogance towards lowers. These are all based on the feeling that I’m special (better/worse) and a strong feeling of ‘me’.
Rejoicing for others’ successes
Helping others succeed
Opening up our heart: the heart has the capacity to love everybody, not just one person. This is a cultural trait, we believe that we can only love 1 person. Myth that we were once whole and then were cut in half, and now we need to find our other half to become whole again (which is the base for romanticism). Sets expectation of what a relationship is supposed to be.
See how much of our jealousy is coming from our psychology and how much of it is coming from our culture